Testosterone is often linked to aggression, but probably not in the way you think. In reality, low testosterone can lead to higher aggression—those with low T levels try to assert themselves through anger, outbursts, and erratic behavior. In contrast, high-testosterone individuals tend to display controlled aggression.

The alpha male moves with confidence. He’s unshaken by petty provocation. Push his buttons? No big deal. Push too far? That’s a different story.

Muscle, Power, and Self-Control

Building muscle naturally increases testosterone utilization, as I’ve discussed before in How To Restore Your Alpha Male Status. And while muscle looks great, feels great, and prepares you for battle, remember this:

👉 Just because you have a loaded gun, doesn’t mean you need to use it.

Let me share a real-life example.

A Lesson in Control

I recall when my wife and I were celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary in downtown Toronto. It was a great evening—dinner, a concert, and a hotel stay. After the show, we were walking back to the hotel, enjoying the night, when two young guys approached us on an empty street.

One of them started saying, “Oh, what a nice-looking couple!”—repeating it as they passed us. Then, as they walked away, he muttered something derogatory about my wife.

I heard it. She didn’t.

My blood boiled instantly. Every instinct screamed at me to stop and confront him—but I didn’t. I kept walking. We reached the hotel a few minutes later, and no harm was done.

That moment replayed in my mind for days. But after watching the movie Southpaw, I realized something:

✔️ Aggression in the gym? That’s power.
❌ Aggression over words? That’s weakness.

The Bottom Line

Strength is more than muscle. True power lies in restraint. There’s a time to fight, and there’s a time to walk away—and real men know the difference.